So live with the fact of responsibility

Mulla Nasrudin’s wife said to him at a buffet supper: 

”That’s the fifth time you have gone back for more fried chicken. Doesn’t it embarrass you?”

”NOT AT ALL,” he said. ”I KEEP TELLING THEM I AM GETTING IT FOR YOU.”


You cannot make anyone else responsible for you

So live with the fact of responsibility

With the possibility of choice, anxiety follows like a shadow. Everything has to be chosen now everything is a conscious effort. You alone are responsible. If you fail, you fail. It is your responsibility. If you succeed, you succeed. It is again your responsibility.

And every choice is ultimate in a sense. You cannot undo it, you cannot forget it, you cannot go back on it. Your choice becomes your destiny. It will remain with you and be a part of you; you cannot deny it.

But your choice is always a gamble.
Every choice is made in darkness because nothing is certain.
That is why man suffers from anxiety. He is anxious to his very roots.

What torments him, to begin with, is: to be or not to be? to do or not to do? to do this or to do that?

”No choice” is not possible.

If you do not choose, then you are choosing not to choose;
it is a choice. So you are forced to choose;

you are not free not to choose. Not choosing will have as much effect as any other choice.
The dignity, the beauty and the glory of man is this consciousness.

But it is a burden also. The glory and the burden come simultaneously the minute you become conscious. Every step is a movement between the two. With man, choice and conscious individuality come into existence

The moment you become completely free, you have to make your own choices. No one forces you to do anything; all alternatives are open to you.

Then the struggle with the mind begins.

So one becomes afraid of freedom.
Sartre said somewhere: ” Man is condemned to be free.”

You cannot make anyone else responsible for you. To accept this situation gives you strength.

We try to place the responsibility somewhere else, away from us.If we are not able to accept some one  then we try to escape from responsibility through intoxicants or drugs, through anything that will make us unconscious. But these efforts to deny responsibility are absurd, juvenile, childish. They only postpone the problem; they are not solutions. You can postpone until death, but the problem still remains,

Once you become aware that you alone are responsible,

there is no escape through any type of unconsciousness. And you are foolish if you try to escape, because responsibility is a great opportunity for evolution. Out of the struggle that is created, something new may evolve. To become aware means to know that everything depends on you.

Everything is ultimately a part of you, and you are responsible for it. There is no one to listen to your excuses there are no courts of appeal, the whole responsibility is yours. You are alone absolutely alone. This has to be understood very clearly. The moment a person becomes conscious, he becomes alone.

The greater the consciousness, the greater the awareness that you are alone. So, do not escape from this fact through society, friends, associations, crowds.

Do not escape from it! It is a great phenomenon; the whole process of evolution has been working toward this. Consciousness has come to the point now where you know that you are alone.

I am not saying loneliness. The feeling of loneliness is the feeling that comes when one is escaping from aloneness, when one is not ready to accept it.

If you do not accept the fact of aloneness, then you will feel lonely.Then you will find some crowd or some means of intoxication in which to forget yourself. Loneliness will create its own magic of forgetfulness.

If you can be alone even for a single moment, totally alone,

the ego will die;
The  ”I” will die.

You will explode you will be no more. The ego cannot remain alone. It can exist only in relation to others. Whenever you are alone, a miracle happens. The ego becomes weak. Now it cannot continue to exist for long.

So if you can be courageous enough to be alone, you will gradually become egoless. the ego cannot exist alone, but it can exist in suicide. Egoistic people are more prone to suicide. Suicide is always in relation to someone else; it is never an act of aloneness. In suicide, the ego will not suffer. Rather, it will become more expressive. It will enter into a new birth with greater force.

Through aloneness, the ego is shattered. It has nothing to relate to, so it cannot exist. So if you are ready to be alone,  just accepting the fact of aloneness as it is Then you are just like a seed that has much potential in it.

But remember, the seed must destroy itself for the plant to grow. Ego is a seed, a potentiality. now it is shattered

So live with the fact of responsibility, with the fact that you are alone.
If you can live with this fact, the explosion will happen

If you can live with the fact of your responsibility for yourself, a discipline will automatically come to you. By being totally responsible for yourself, you cannot help but become disciplined.But this discipline is not something forced upon you from the outside. It comes from within.

Because of the total responsibility you carry for yourself, each step you take is disciplined. You cannot utter even one word irresponsibly.

If you are aware of your own aloneness,
you will be aware of the anguish of others also.

Then you will not be able to commit a single irresponsible act, because you will feel responsible not only for yourself but for others also.

If you can live with the fact of your aloneness, you know that everyone is lonely.

Then the son knows that the father is lonely the wife knows that the husband is lonely; the husband knows that the wife is lonely.

Once you know this, it is impossible not to be compassionate